Win The Arm Tone War With Your Thoughts

August 30th, 2010

It took a lot of trial and error to figure out how to get arm tone and as a result, flabby arms were the thorn in my side for a very long time. I was extremely frustrated and resorted to hiding behind kimono-style tops all the time.

The most frustrating part of the whole arm tone process was ever-changing levels of motivation. No matter how hard I tried, I could not maintain a high level of focus and desire for extended periods of time.

Sometimes the disappointment would be so great that I would jump ship all-together. And a jar of cookies would become my consolation.

Luckily, I had a wakeup call one morning. I realized that this pattern of ups and downs was not sustainable.

As a result, I began searching for a way to maintain motivation and adherence to a program. The answer to my prayers? Dr David Burns MD. He created a method that revolved around the avoidance of cognitive distortions.

So here are 3 thought distortions you need to avoid today so that you can have motivation tomorrow:

1. Perfectionism distortions. If you see things as black or white then you have this distortion. For example, if you have to have a perfect workout or no workout at all then you suffer from perfectionism. How do you avoid it? Don’t sweat the small stuff and always keep moving forward despite minute setbacks. In other words, focus on general patterns of improvement.

2. Over-generalizing distortions. Just because you haven’t been successful today doesn’t mean you can’t be successful tomorrow. You simply haven’t found the right approach. Yet with this distortion, you assume that your past failures will keep on being your future failures. The key here is to keep on trying new things with a fresh outlook.

3. Mental filtering distortion. This distortion is pure evil because it prevents you from giving yourself enough credit-a critical component to success. For example, let’s say you have an entire month of solid workouts but miss one workout due to a last-minute commitment. Instead of giving yourself praise for the awesome month of workouts, you ignore them and beat yourself up for the single missed workout that was entirely out of your control. That’s ridiculous!

Avoiding the above distortions will seriously help you achieve lasting motivation when trying to get arm tone. And lasting motivation is the key to sexy arm stardom. So make sure you act on this information now and not later!

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Why Exercise?

August 29th, 2010

I wish I could tell you that I love exercising. Truthfully, I don’t. I didn’t pack on 147 excess pounds because I liked exercising. What I do love is the weight that I now maintain, the health that I feel, and the clarity in my thinking. All of these are possible because of healthy habits that lead to a happier, healthier life.

I’ve struggled with maintaining an exercise routine. My thinking is that for only 30 to 45 minutes a day a few days per week, I get to maintain my weight loss, feel stronger physically, mentally and emotionally. Circumstances don’t hit me and make me feel like a victim of life just waiting. My weight loss has given me that! By exercising for a few minutes out of the 24 hours per day that you are given is a very small investment for the gigantic payoff of a happy life. If only the stock market and our economy would pay off in a big way for such a small investment!

To continue exercising, I need motivation. Through coaching, I was able to come to the realization that 30 to 45 minutes per day a few days a week gives me a happier, healthier life for the 23-1/2 hours in the rest of my day. Now, that’s a major payoff. That’s my motivation. Through coaching, you can find yours too.

Motivation is generated or dismissed in your head. So, here’s some ways to convince your head to get fit, stay fit, and invest in yourself through exercise:

1. Exercise out of the gym. All activity and movement equals exercise. Exercise is a mindset. Rather than drive around for 10 minutes looking for the closest parking space, park in the last row where there are virtually no other cars and walk to your store. You’ll get there quicker, burn less gas and burn more calories. While others are mindlessly standing on the escalator or wasting minutes waiting for the elevator, climb the stairs. Again, you’ll be there while the others are wasting their time and hanging on to calories they could have burned. Look for opportunities to be active. Exercise doesn’t count as exercise if it is within the walls of a gym. Think of exercise as all ways that you move your body.

2. Set an exercise goal. Decide that you’d like to participate in a walk/run event, train for a long distance walk, work with a personal trainer, increase your frequency or duration by a certain time. Give yourself rewards for reaching your exercise goals.

3. Ban boredom. Who wants to exercise if you are bored? Mix it up. One of the most popular television shows is celebrities that are learning ballroom dancing. Many of them have toned and lost impressive amounts of weight. Take dancing lessons to have fun and count as exercise. Other fun forms of exercise can include bowling, snowboarding, Zumba, swimming, water aerobics, walking your dog, or even laser tag. Rather than think of exercise, think about exercise combined with fun. Actual physical activity isn’t boring at all. How you do it though can be. Reframe exercise as exercise combined with fun.

4. Exercise Multi-Tasking. While you’re exercising, watch your favorite recorded television shows or dvd. Listen to audiobooks only while you’re exercising. Load up your iPod or MP3 player with your favorite motivational songs. Listen to those tunes only while you’re exercising. There are video games that you can dance to that definitely work up your heart rate as exercise. You’ll forget your movement counts as exercise because you’ll be having so much fun.

5. The more the merrier – bring a friend. Exercise with a friend, coach or personal trainer. Anyone to make it fun, share the companionship of exercising together plus the bonus of accountability.

6. Turn challenges into successes. Does your vacation give you an excuse to put your exercise routine on hold? Do projects at work derail your workout time? Does weather put the freeze on your regular activity? Deepen your commitment to yourself and exercise routine by looking for opportunities to move. Look for ways to incorporate activity into your vacation, set limits for your work projects, bring your exercise and activities indoors. You’ll strengthen your commitment and exercise muscle into a no-give dedication to your health.

7. Exercise Stars. After you’ve worked out and felt great, write it down. Start a journal or log with your thoughts after a work out. Use images of past successful exercise experiences to remind yourself how great you feel. When motivation is questionable, pull out your notes of past exercise sessions to remind you of those powerful positive feelings.

I can’t say that I’m in love with exercise. I’ve made friends with it and I like it. What I am in love with is my life following weight loss, maintaining my weight, feeling happier, stronger and healthier than ever before in my life. All of that for a mere 30-45 minutes per day? Now, that’s an investment and dividend payoff that gives and gives the other 23-1/2 hours in your day. Exercise is the investment that keeps on giving all through your day. An investment in yourself is the best one of all.

Dating Someone With Kids

August 28th, 2010

Internet dating is convenient. You have the luxury of logging onto to your favorite internet dating site whenever you have time. You can weed through hundreds of potential matches in minutes. Dating sites built in organization allows you to keep up with people through various means of communication. It’s no wonder that internet dating is no longer a fad but a legitimate means of find a date!

Spare time is something that most of us have in limited quantity. A common reason for lack of spare time is the presence of children; biology’s little time consumers. Before you misunderstand, let me add that I do NOT have children. Therefore I don’t pretend to have the know-how to write advice of any kind about the perils of single parenting and dating.

Though I do NOT have kids of my own, I do have single parent friends. I’ have also been known to dip my toes in the single daddy pool once or twice. From that, I have acquired a little experience about the ins and outs of dating someone who has children which I share with you now.

Like children

Seriously. If you don’t like kids, don’t want kids, have no real desire to be around kids, I would think twice before agreeing to go out with someone already packing reproductive baggage. Guess what? They aren’t going anywhere. Yes, there’s always the possibility of you coming around and becoming endeared to these specific children and there’s nothing wrong with testing those waters. Just beware: if you don’t like kids, don’t get attached to your new sweetie too quickly.

Prepare to come in second, always

It’s a fact of life that many parents thought they had met the love of their life until the baby came along. Then their hearts melted, again. That’s biology for you! When dating someone with children, you have to be realistic about who their priority is. It won’t be you, it’ll be their child. So you need to put your ego on the back burner.

All kids have a Mom AND a Dad

So you’ve met this amazing man. He’s smart and funny and ambitious and you are just dying, you little smitten kitten. And even better, you love his 5-year-old and the little thing thinks you’re pretty cool, too. Then you meet mom. Oh no, not his mother, but a far scarier entity: the baby mama.

It is rumored that separated parents can, and do, have a very respectful and amicable relationship. Let’s hope that’s the case here so you can breathe a tentative sigh of relief. If no one has ever told you before, be prepared for baggage no matter how well the parents get along. And for the sake of the child, hope and pray that the other parent will always be around for them.

In other words, be secure. That’s really all there is to it. If you’re insecure to begin with, dealing with exes, coming in second in priorities and getting to know his or her kids will do your head in.

If you don’t confront and overcome those insecurities, the relationship won’t last. If you’re lucky, you will find yourself with someone who empathizes with your position, and can hold your hand through the tricky parts.

How To Buy A Mountain Bike

August 27th, 2010

If you’re getting ready to buy a mountain bike, here are some of the things you need to think of. One of the most important factors of choosing a mountain bike is what you are going to be using the mountain bike for. That may sound funny because you were mountain biking, but read more.

For example, the most avid mountain bikers, as the name implies, like to take their mountain bikes to rugged and rocky mountain terrain. Other mountain bikers prefer unpaved roads and trails, while other mountain bike enthusiasts stick to paved roads and bike paths.

So, depending on the level of ruggedness, and the kinds of paths you plan on writing, there are different types of bikes and gear you need. There is a direct correlation to kind of riding you will do and the type of mountain bike you should buy. In the rest of this article were going to look at the top three pieces of equipment.

Choosing mountain bike forks. The most important thing when it comes to bike forks is to look at the shocks. The shocks can make the ride a much more comfortable. But you need to make sure you get the right stiffness. If you have shocks that are too cushioning, you might make it too hard to ride. Traffic to stiff take its toll on your body.

Picking mountain bike saddles. Some saddles are very light weight and do not offer a lot of padding. Some saddles are heavier and offer a lot of cushioning. Generally, mountain bikes that have saddles without a lot of padding are more high performance oriented, while those that have more cushioning in the saddle are designed for leisurely riding. Some mountain bikes also have shock absorbent seat posts.

If you find that you like a higher performance mountain bike better than a mountain bike that is designed for comfort, but do not like the saddle, keep in mind that you can always switch the saddle out for a more comfortable one. Experimenting is really one of the only ways that you’re going to find out the kind of seats that you like.

Tips on selecting mountain bike tires. When you buy a mountain bike, take a look at the tires. Do you plan to ride on very rugged terrain? if so, then choose tires that are wider and more cushioning. Do you plan on riding only on pavement? then you need tires with less traction are thinner, narrower, and smoother. This doesn’t mean that you can’t use a tire with a lot of traction on pavement, but you will get more speed with a smoother tire.

These are just a few basics for buying a mountain bike. Ultimately, buy a mountain bike that you enjoy riding…you will probably be riding the mountain bike you purchase for the next 5 or 10 years. As your passion develops, you will find that you refine your preferences on bike gear.